Cleaning out our old place, I came across the dusty and neglected wedding candle that my husband and I lit during our Nuptial Mass. As with many of our meaningful objects, it was tucked away in our closet only ever seeing the light of day during a move to a new house.
One priest offered a wonderful, but unheeded, suggestion to us before we were married. Whenever any disagreement arose, he thought it would be a good idea for the both of us to light the wedding candle and discuss our issues with the candle burning before us.
As much as I’ve always liked that idea, had we actually followed his suggestion, said candle would only be a memory now. I am confident that our dear candle would have melted away during the first year of our marriage. Yes, for all those who may have not gotten the newsflash: marriage is hard work, especially during the first few years!
But amidst the packing, I wondered why I’ve never put our candle on display. Maybe because I considered it too special. Maybe because I was never crazy about the gold finish. Who knows?
As I’ve become less concerned about such things, I’ve realized that the candle needs to find a more proper place in our home. In the daily grind of life, there can never be too many reminders of the sanctity of marriage and the fire of sacrificial love that must burn within us.
Having survived all these years unscathed (the candle, that is), it deserves a rightful place on our prayer altar.
Where it should have been all along.
Be appeased, O Lord, by our humble prayers, and in Your kindness assist this institution of marriage which You have ordained for the propagation of the human race; so that this union made here, joined by Your authority, may be preserved by Your help. Through the same our Lord Jesus Christ, Your Son, Who lives and reigns with You in the unity of the Holy Spirit, God, world without end. Amen.
St. Valentine, patron saint of happy marriages, and St. Joseph, patron saint of all marriages, pray for us.